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How are those resolutions working out so far?

Have you made any resolutions for this year? Or do you prefer to set goals?  What about not just setting those goals, but writing them down?

The more energy you focus on what you want the more chances of success!

A New Year

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“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.” – Melody Beattie

“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.” – Helen Keller

“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us.” – Hal Borland

“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” – Oprah Winfrey

New Year’s resolutions and setting goals

Have you made any resolutions for 2014? Have you broken them already? We tend to balk at the idea of resolutions, as too often, we break them. A more successful approach would be to set specific goals with a specific timeline.

My husband loves long distance running. Many years ago, he was a keen iStock_000016761568Largetriathlete, and competed in an Ironman. His favourite part of the race is always running.  He wants to qualify for the Boston Marathon, so he is starting to train again, this time seriously, so that he can run in a qualifying marathon in May. He has a training buddy to keep him accountable, and they are following a specific  training schedule.

Goal attainment is achievable when there is a specific deadline, accountability, and particular steps that will lead you towards your goal. Having a time-bound goal, in my husband’s case of May 4th, 2014 is a good example of a specific deadline. It isn’t as arbitrary as, say, the year 2014.

So let’s put aside the idea of making resolutions that we know we will break, and instead, think of a goal we want to achieve.

 

Resolutions or Goals?

Now that 2014 has started, we’re all thinking about what the new year will bring  us.  Conversations about new year’s resolutions occur around this time. Fitness gyms tend to be quite full in January with people on the ‘New year, New me’  bandwagon. And then, things start to wane. Many people can’t stick to new year’s resolutions. But what about goals? Do you find more success if you focus on a particular goal? Or, are resolutions and goals just not your thing? We’d love to hear what you’re thinking. Vote in the poll below.

Why 88% fail

It’s coming up that time of year again. The time where we diligently take great pains to craft how we are going to stop doing or start doing something. Alas, I’m certain I am not alone in creating or executing my resolutions  and then find myself later in the year almost midnightreflecting on why most of my liftoff plans failed.  Leo Wildrich offers some fascinating science behind why failure rate for resolutions is so high and some great suggestions on how to actually succeed in the future.

Enjoy reading his blog post on The science of new year’s resolutions: Why 88% fail and how to make them work .

New Year’s Resolutions. It’s about your career too.

“You hit a goal, you achieve a goal. You keep a resolution”.                                ~ Gretchen Rubin

I decided to ask some people in my network if they had any New Years Career Resolutions. I got off to a great start. One woman admitted that she would love to see her coworkers deal with their customers in a more empathetic and positive way, especially since the company she works for is purely customer services orientated. I found her answer to be genuinely concerned for how some of her coworkers were dealing with customers and in turn making her work environment not a very fun one.

A couple of people admitted that they would like to look for a new or more challenging role in 2012. Others felt that they had hit the well-known ceiling and were at a crossroads with whether or not they should stay or move on from their current companies.  Two people said that they would like to further their education and be more challenged in their work. Then I got an answer that made me realize this whole “New Years Resolution” thing is a bit silly! My close friend Paul said, “New years resolutions are easy enough to make, but it is the actual implementation that differentiates the highly motivated from the somewhat motivated.” This comment jolted me a bit and made me question why do we feel we need to make promises to ourselves just because it’s a new year? I am sure most people can admit they never follow through with these promises, and most of them probably quickly conjure up some cliché answer when asked. Do you ever hear anyone ask,  “Hey, what’s your resolution for April?” Of course you don’t. People have this tendency to think: New Year, new start. What I am asking here is why?

Be the highly motivated and make your goals year round. Write out your goals and stick it on your wall or in your bedside table and look at it nightly. Remind yourself of where you want to be and want you want to achieve and start taking the right steps. Don’t give some fluffy answer because everyone and their dog are asking you “What’s your New Years resolution?” How about next time you’re asked say, “To make a new goal for every month and actually achieve it.” Let’s get serious here and make our own successes with actual steps to get us there.

For example,  to the woman who wants to see more positivity and empathy coming from some of her coworkers, I propose she initiates the change by being extra positive herself and setting a clear example for the rest of her team. Exude the fantastic customer service energy and hope some jump on the train. Or become a good listener to those who are negative and help them clarify their issues and perhaps provide good insight of how she handles difficult customers while remaining empathetic and helpful. These would be great steps to implement – and it means actually following through with your goal.

I completely appreciate my peers’ answers and honestly believe every single one of them will achieve their career goals. It just got me thinking about how many things I would like to achieve for 2012 and if I will actually do it.  Being honest with myself I can say that previous “resolutions” were not fulfilled and I am tired of it! I am now going to make goals for myself every time I think of something I want, and that’s not just for my career, it’s for my health, personal life, and anything else I want. And I will tenaciously take the needed steps. Saying it is easy… it’s the doing that’s hard.